We went for a swim in the pool, and played with a beach ball. I got some smiles out of her. I also helped out with everything, and basically did what I said I was going to.
She expected me to be a disaster, and instead I was a complete angel. Haha.
I talked with her mom, and she said that she absolutely doesn't want this divorce to happen. I told her mom how much influence she has over my wife, and she said she would do what she could.
On the car ride home, my wife and I talked civilly the whole time. We also had a very civil morning today. However, there are also times when she treated me like nothing. And she tends not to look at me when she talks. She actually tries very hard to look somewhere else or at the TV when she does.
Her parents stopped by the house today and were amazed at the work I have put into it. But they both saw how she treats me normally. They both REALLY hope that she changes her mind.
I am just wondering where to go from here. Next weekend is the 4th of July, and I know she has no plans. I just offhandedly asked her about it, and wanted to see if she would catch some fireworks with me. But she said "Oh, no thanks".
I want to keep the positive changes going in her, and to break the cycle of hopelessness. I still haven't been served yet, and I know I have to act like nothing happened as a 180. But as far as her and I go, she will be away all week, and I am wondering if we should talk at all. Our family counselor said we should, just some short calls to be civil to each other and talk a bit. Any other ideas or suggestions?
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
