Does DB'ing work if OW is playing the victim?!?!

[newmama]

Xin,

my story is convoluted. Here is a synopsis:
A started Fall 08.
I find out Jan 09, tell him to end it or leave.

March -09 I find out he never ended it so I tell him to end it or leave. He leaves. I want a D at first and then change my mind, hoping after the baby is born he will "wake up."

He tells me he wants a D in June, August and OCtober.

I discover DBing in October and start.

I don't hear anything about D until March 2010. He decides he wants to D but says he doesn't want to lose me.

In April 2010 he tells me he wants to D. Then in June, he served me papers and tells me he is uncertain but thinks it's the right thing to do.

I have DBed my ass off and the result was stalling the D, giving stbxh doubts about D-ing me.

But I also have learned sooo much and have GALed like crazy. So I am in better shape to start life as a divorcee than I would have been if I had never discovered DBing.