Still chipping away at EA

[elvencat]

I think you're right. At this point.. MIL is who I'll have to work on. I sincerely doubt she has the ability to block her son out that completely. She and his dad divorced when H was quite small and she feels like she's been trying to make up for it ever since. (Vicious cycle - divorce)

MIL also has to take care of disabled FIL.. so I know as much as this is needed - it would probably take her to the breaking point emotionally.

So, I think I'm going to have to go with finding my own place, unfortunately, but I WILL discuss things with her first.

H already commented to OW that he felt "f***ity f**k f**ked"
(Direct quote minus some letters - but you get the point.)

Maybe the pressure of me leaving and everyone's negative emotions toward him for the affair will do some work - not as quickly as forcing him into moving in with her, of course...

Wish I could figure out how to do that without making it look like that's what I'm doing, or sending MIL into emotional breakdown. Also - OWM already stated even though OW is grown woman and pays rent, she puts her foot down on a married man moving in. Hee hee.. would love to be there to see what happened....