You need to read DR again.. MWD made it very clear that their negative attitude is a product of how they FEEL about their marraige... HOPE is what is missing...
WHen you feel hopeless, your attitude twoards repairing the marriage is hopeless... its a viscious cycle...
YOU have to BREAK the cycle by setting an adult example, doing what needs to be done to save the marriage DESPITE the negative cynicism that he's throwing at you... You can't let HIS hoplessness beat you down...
Hoplessness breeds more of it if you don't combat it... don't expect his hopelessness to go away before you act... and don't pay it any mind, just do what needs to be done as a marital partner and he will follow suit... if he's not addicted to anything
Good reminder!!! I'm praying fervently for God to reveal anything to me that needs revealing, in terms of his possible addictions. I had no luck with the cellphone today because he took it in the bathroom with him when he went in to shower. I have not paid attention to whether or not this is usually the case, but he does usually keep his phone in his pocket most of the time. I guess all I can do short of asking to see it is keep praying for an opportunity to get my hands on it. Going to get that voice activated thing in the next few days as well.
