Still chipping away at EA

[elvencat]

Thanks so much everyone for jumping in on this with me. I know I'd be a blubbering idiot right now without you all there to steer me in a level headed direction.

Puppy - saw the revision and I really like it.
4MYRS - I see what you are trying to say and will think on it.
Allen - I'll attempt to list some options for living situations below and see if you all can maybe help me work through the best one.
Sunny - spot on about this being for me and DD. I can't control him, I can only control my reaction to him and right now I feel this is the way to do it.

Guys - at this very moment he is trying to act like yesterday's blasting never happened and everything is all hunky dorey. I've been giving him the silent treatment since last night when I got home from my walk - he told OW I was 'hiding'. No - regrouping and thinking about the next steps is more like it. And he won't like the next steps.


Possible Living Arrangements -
1. Convince him to move to rental knowing it's not in good shape and DD couldn't stay with him there, and I stay in MIL's house with DD - where all her things are and where she's most comfortable other than at my mom's house. But not sure if this will be too awkward given I'm essentially trying to kick H out of his mother's house.

2. Move with DD into rental house into the one room that IS liveable and ask MIL to watch her during the day while I try to clean as much as I can without money.

3. Move home to my parents - big problem with this is state of MO frowns on parents moving with children across state lines (even if it's only 40 minutes away) when there is pending legal action - not a problem now, but could cause a legal issue for me if H decides to complain and file.

4. Try to find a temp living situation near home and stay there myself - problem here is I refuse to go anywhere I can't take DD.

5. I don't have any physically close family to stay with to still be in the area to look for a job. So I'd have to hunt down friends.. and local friends are practically non-existant.

So.. any ideas on the best of the worst?