It's OK if she calls about stuff...you don't want to give her a cold shoulder or cut her out of your life. Just let her do the calling/pursuing etc. Acknowledge, be polite and friendly - just don't discuss 'stuff' and if she does just validate and tell her you understand how she feels. She was in control until D but now you're the one in control, lead your life and family according to your wishes.

I guess sooner or later you'll have to answer the question at what point do you and her have the discussion but before that you need to be clear of your options and what you want for the rest of your life. You're lucky than most of us that she shows interest in you...I'm just not sure if it's based on guilt or true remorse for what she did.

But for now just enjoy time with your sis.

Last edited by StupidRomeo; 06/27/10 07:29 PM.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6
Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks
Aug 2006, left again
Apr 2007, filed for divorce
Dec 2007, reunited
Mar 2010, moved out, filed again