Allen, I totally see your point. My hubby could be viewing it in secret again I have no idea he hid is so well. I would guess not though. His actions show otherwise and he feels that he must not allow any porn or it's a slippery slope that will suck him in...
I will tell you this much though- being rejected and not having my needs met for years and not knowing the real reason why (well there is more to it of course) hurt like hell.
The only reason I found out about the porn is that our computer got infected with these porn adds that kept popping up like crazy and my husband sheepishly admitted that he was viewing it and keeping it a secret from me.... He felt humiliated that our yong son would want to play a game and porn would pop up.
Back to Laura though- I have no idea how she should handle this... besides maybe setting a boundary of no changes on his end then she leaves. I mean what else can she do? Maybe you will have some wise words...
If I had known I would have handled things differently.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
