navajo, as you've realized from reading this board, many other people are going through what you're going through. While knowing that won't solve your problems, it should give you some comfort that you're not alone.
Please take the advice of people here, too ... they've walked through this fire and have learned a lot through hard experience.
I understand your financial limitations (in the same boat myself): see if you can locate DB or DR at your local library. If not, look for a cheap used copy online at Amazon -- I picked one up for a few bucks and the reading is well worth it.
Good luck and take care of yourself.
Thank you, I have checked the libraries around here and can't find it. I am planning on hitting a couple of used book stores tomorrow.
I guess I am still in denial, since I thought our love was unconnditional for the past 20 years and was stupidly thinking she would come back on her own once we got it out in the open.
Guess I've got some hard work coming in the future. I really appreciate it!
Me-44 W-41 M-20yrs S13 D18 ILYBINILWY-June 2010 (On our Anniversary)