So, here is where I am, she gave me the old I Love You, but can’t stay with you because you are emotionally cold toward me” but she still comes over here every day, touches me when she walks by, rubs my head or back, hugs me occasionally and tells me she still loves me. Just to get this out, she is the love of my life and I’ll do ALMOST anything to win her love back. I have been making the classic mistakes so far. I left a dozen roses in her car at work and a letter accepting my part in the current and prior problems (I’ll explain more later) and asking her to please come home and work on our M. She came over that evening and thanked me for the flowers and said she doesn’t know if she wants to come back and doesn’t know when she will be able to give me an answer. I don’t know if she has stopped the EA and haven’t asked her yet as I feel it would be a mistake to start pushing her right now with her mother situation. THAT WILL be the only sticking point I have if she hasn’t/won’t.
I have also given her a music CD she wanted, baked cookies and brownies and left them in her car… I am NOT a stalker (HA!) just don’t want to take the stuff into her work and possibly start a big scene. I will stop all of that right now.
NO! No, no, no, no, no, no NO!!!
Have you read DB or DR yet? These are all HUGE MISTAKES (altho you certainly wouldn't be the first, Nav).
So let me get this straight: your wife cheats on you, you find out about it, and then SHE gets to decide what SHE wants to do, all the while you pursue her with flowers, songs and frigging BROWNIES???
