Still chipping away at EA

[elvencat]

Been reading the protection phase... I've been working on a letter for H. I know it's not complete NC because I don't know that I can trust anyone to act as intermediary right now, so how does this sound so far:

Dear H,
I love you and am committed to you and our family we created together. I am willing to do whatever we can to work through the hardships our marriage has endured and come out the other side better than we have been before. I want a marriage and family that will bring us both joy.

Your relationship with OW is so painful for me that it is destroying the love and respect I have felt for you for many years. It is creating chaos for me, our daughter and our friends and family. In order to protect myself and our daughter from the pain of your affair and your attempts to destroy our family, I am stepping away from the chaos.

Please respect my wish for no contact (other than email or text when necessary) for as long as you are involved in your affair. When your affair is ended, and you are ready to begin constructively working toward rebuilding our family, please contact me and I will be happy to speak with you.

-elvencat



The only question I have now, though, is that there are several issues that I feel need to be addressed regarding the household and DD... Should I include these items in the bottom of this message? I can post what I've typed up so far if you want to read it, too.