I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Trying to be positive here: you're creating YOUR space now! With S. Maybe you can buy some nice pictures or put up new photographs of you with S!

Exactly my plan, Gatsby! Great minds....

I am getting S' photos done on July 14 and hope to have some shots of me with him as well. (we tried Sears and he was just too active and curious about the environment to settle down and pose! So I found someone who will follow him around and take pics!)

And I was thinking of what new art to put up. Gotta check out Ross or TJ Maxx!

Red, WOW, you posted at just the right time! I was cleaning and thinking to myself "I want someone to just tell me what to do! To say 'if I were you, and I wanted to save my marriage, and my WH expressed uncertainty, I would...'"

1. Pack stbxh's stuff and have it waiting at the door DONE!
2. Make it YOUR space with new paint and accessories in the works...get to go shopping for new comforter and art and getting more photos of S taken...
3. Take class sooner rather than later ALL SIGNED UP!

If he's having doubts, you turning off the lights on the NewMama option could make him freak

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Might as well try!





OK. Am taking a deep breath. Am renergizing. My body and soul has been nagging at me for the whole last week...like that nicorette commercial where the man is oblivious to the shark biting his arm off because he is craving a cigarette. You see him sitting there, dazed, and hear his thinking "cigarette. cigarette. cigarette." lol!

But in my case it is "he's uncertain. he's uncertain. he's uncertain." and I told myself it was unhealthy for me to dwell on that so I made myself think "NO. He's leasing a house with her! Give this up, newmama! You are in denial!"

And when ONE friend said to me "newmama, you guys need to talk some more! He doesn't sound convinced!" I was the one who said "no. He said it was the right thing to do. He's leasing a house with her for a year. There's no use." And she didn't argue with me. Maybe because I didn't want to believe--hope can be exhausting! I had no idea!

It's a lease, not a death sentence.

lol! I am too practical! I was also thinking "but he BOUGHT NEW FURNITURE FOR THE PLACE!" And you are right. People who are not married, but dating, break up all the time. They move out. Leases can be broken. He could always give her the furniture as a consolation prize.