You go to family therapy FIRST, interview the FT...

Once you sign off on them, have the FT put a hand written invitation on their business card to your husband by name

"Hi Mr SunnyD, I am hoping to meet with you to discuss how we can make your marriage a lot more worthwhile for you.."

Or something like that.. hand written and then you leave the card for your H on the table or something...

Don't hand it to him, just put it on the table and tell him its there... wait for hiim to pick it up

You can't just send him to a FT blind... NEVER DO THAT