EC, do you think its time for a HARDER stance NOW?
We've been telling you for months to stop enabling him... I think it's time you faced the facts before you.
You have it in the bag now I think... protection phase time is my advice.. SHUT HIM OUT of your family's LIFE and EXPOSE FULLY NOW... that he is having sex with another woman... I would also reccomend exposing at the University.... But SR may have some better advice on how to do that safely... but I DO reccomend exposign what she's doing at the Uni somehow...
You have a LOT of family and friends supporting you. Encourage them to press the four key points on your husband
1. The affair is damaging your wife, your family, and your marriage 2. Stop lying to everyone, stop hurting everyone, and stop the affair 3. Go home, work on reconcilliation with your wife and rebuild your family 4. End all contact with OW, she is an interloper and a threat to your marriage, your wife, and your family
Your friends and family can press this on him
Remember that your Husband is living in a selfish destructive fantasy world and lying to EVERYONE.. INCLUDING OW...
FOcus on that fact : Your Husband is LYING TO HER as much as you... He's stringing her along like a fool too... Your husband's in a fantasy world and he's selling that wold to both of you... by lying.
If you push the truth out there, it ruins the fantasy and the addiction slowly gets chipped away...
Get family to press him to come home, but YOU should be in protection phase... no contact for you or your DD right now.. he's not in a healthy place to expose himself to anyone... He's a walking time bomb of damage
Note : Don't believe a word OW says about her mother rolling her eyes, you just read a lot of lies my dear, as long as you can push the truth out there the lies will evaporate... lies only have a lifespan if people believe them.. and you have a lot of support to combat that - USE IT
