Still chipping away at EA

[elvencat]

Good Morning Sunny,
I read that on your thread. At this point my skin is crawling thinking about how much disrespect he's showing me in these convos with OW and how much he acts like I'm the crazy one for acting the way I am. I know I am being vilified in an effort to make it easier to break away, but knowing mentally and understanding emotionally are two different things.

I'm tempted to tell my H that I no longer wish to speak to him in person and if he has anything to tell me, he can email it because then I'd have a record of his interactions with me.

It also bugs the crap out of me that OW said OWM was worried about H taking care of OW's two autistic kids, but never once in the night long convo did they talk about DD. I know H has thought all along I'd have full custody... but I tried to tell him that would hurt DD more than anything to not see her daddy so much. I guess he still doesn't believe that I'd let him see her very often for them to not even discuss it.

H told OW "I can't believe how many f'ing people agree with how she's acting!" Gee... shouldn't it tell you something that everyone we both know hates what you're doing, yet everyone who only knows you agrees with you?

He keeps repeating how DONE he is... well, he's not done yet because every little piece of info I find out is driving his family one step closer to destruction. I still think family is important, but I'm starting to wonder if I should stop all attempts at reconciliation for my own sanity and seek a legal separation. He can do the dirty work of filing divorce. NO WAY is that my job.

I have to start thinking about protecting myself and DD from his actions. He's accusing me of so many things. How can further contact make things any better at this point? I don't know.