If you get spewed anything I would suggest you exit the conversation, simply saying you will not tolerate being disrespected...
Never act on rage... Always wait til you have control of your impulses to make an action. I am not saying do nothing, I am saying make calculated choices, not impulsive ones
I would need more details to comment on the legal stuff...
Stop looking at twitter, facebook, etc... If you know he's cheating and everyone else knows that's all you need as far as intel, the rest is just you being self-abusive
My advice yes is to expose what OW is doing to your marriage and your family to anyone who you feel may pressure her to back off...
Always express things in the context of destroying family, NOT your husband cheating... its ok to use the word infidelity, but don't attack your husband, attack the OW as an interloping third party only
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