The class is a set of 4, one per week, and we are taking it separately. Thank you, Mrs. A, for your opinion on me taking the class!I do think it will show that not only am I taking this seriously, but it will help me to face this reality. I prayed about it last night and got a quick answer (unlike other questions I have asked!!!)
OK I have made some decisions and won't waffle. Then off to do some baking and cleaning again. And going to a going away party for my cousin later today.
1) I will go ahead and take the class in July. I prayed about it and, got the feeling (which is how I determine what God is suggesting to me) that "eh, six of one, 1/2 a dozen of the other--go ahead and take it." And then....this after thought "this class will good for stbxh to see what he is choosing to do."
Yes, I know it is what I want to do. So that is why I am taking it based on what I want to do, not him.
2)I will try to get in to see my therapist this week.
3)Sometime before the D is over, I will talk to stbxh some more. I just need help knowing
WHEN to do it (sorry but I have always been a big believer in timing. "Timing's everything.")
WHAT I want to ASK ( I think this is probably most important)
WHAT I want to SAY or let him know.
Not for "the magic words to make him wake up" but more like how to plant seeds for a teenager to make a decision about their life! (thanks WN for helping me change the way I am viewing sbxh!) AND ULTIMATELY FOR ME TO GET SOME ANSWERS I DESERVE TO KNOW
4) I will still keep up with GAL and keep my interactions with stbxh the same because it is what I want (not to be best friends, not to be rude, just brief and to the point, poker face).
Last edited by newmama; 06/27/1002:57 PM.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
