Does DB'ing work if OW is playing the victim?!?!

[newmama]

I don't think you get how to DB. It is worth the money to buy the book, Divorce Remedy. There are way more strategies than the ones you see commonly referred to here. And most people aren't patient or consistent enough. That is very hard to do. Patient to stick with one strategy and monitor results, patient to know that one strategy may not be enough, and that it takes months and not days or weeks to save your marriage. Consistency in applying the strategy and not losing your emotional cool. Oh and, willingness to try something different if your strategy isn't working. (that was hard for me, lol!)

However, affairs are very complicated. I don't mean to discourage you, but be aware that once they want the OP, it is a very very difficult road to trying to end the affair, get your H back on board with the marriage, and get the OP out of your life.

A lot of people just give up after awhile and say it's not worth it. But, if you want to try....

You could start with exposing the A to OW's H. Except you will need some hardcore evidence. And do not, I repeat, DO NOT tell your H about the evidence or that you are going to tell OW's H.

The other thing is that if your H isn't treating you well and giving you what you need, but he is staying with you due to guilt, then he could very well decide to just stay with you and still cheat with the OW. He could also be treating you well but still be with OW.