going on 18 yrs of marriage, with two boys, 12 and 14, i can finally say that the sexual part of my marriage is dead--and it's been dead for at least 9-10 yrs.
i still have the libido of a teenager, and my wife still fills me with desire for her, yet i am to go on through this marriage being unable to touch her in a romantic, sexual, passionate manner. i truly feel that i have been completely emasculated: i will not go to her and wrap myself around her and tell her how beautiful she is, and how much i still love her, because i know that she will say,"ok, that's good, now can you please let me go/go away?!" as if i'm suffocating her.
nothing can be done. i tried everything. we have once a month sex--which i call her monthly maintanence--and then i don't have any sex until next month. i am rejected all of the time.
everthing else in the world is more important than to be with me sexually, romantically, intimately. there just is no room for her to be a wife: there's only room for her to be a mom and a career woman.
