need help with communication/DB strategy

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Hey FLC, sorry you've been going through all this. Can understand why you wrote this kind of 'release letter', but yes perhaps it was too nice. My impression is that he is hellbent on having his freedom and your best bet it to stand out the way now.
Let him go on his journey and don't try and control this. You have said you piece. He knows you don't want this and that you love him. Now don't say it any more.

Time Heals, tell me why again it is good to have a L sort out the financials and to not 'talk divorce'? Sorry, I'm a bit slow on this point & feel I could use clarification for my own sitch also.

Just wanted to share, FLC, that my WH was also slightly amazed that divorce was going to cost him fincially and he also said exactly this: "all his life he did what other wanted him to do or what others thought would be good for him. Now it's time to do what he wants." which meant OW. His 'moral code' extended to telling me about the A,then leaving me pregnant. Niice.