^^^ Wow these last three posts really got me thinking. Especially the "victim" talk. Thanks. I'm going to read the threads you referred to Twink.
Today was an eventful day. Up to this point I've not really let on that I'm 99 percent sure H is still having some type of inappropriate contact. I don't do ANY type of investigating anymore so am not SURE. Long story short, he pulled some weird stuff about needing to keep his Saturday night free even though a family gathering had been discussed all week. I reached a point where it was time to let him know that I knew that was more going on here. Here's what I said:
"I'm not able/willing to be in a situation that involves "other people" than the two of us, and secrecy from you. My patience is not without limits. I've expressed this clearly and honestly."
"I think things would unfold more smoothly for both of us if you didn't misrepresent our conversations to either of our families in order to support your actions/untruths. Do what you feel you must, as will I. I am not able to be, nor do I have a necessity to be, in an open marriage. Thank you for taking this into consideration. Please let me know if you'd like me to clarify."
I now plan to continue being very dim. I keep feeling like this is headed toward me filing for a D. If it is, it is I guess. Planning to expose truth to my family in just over a week (after a planned party).
Thoughts? Thanks.
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M--14 years T--20 years, HS sweethearts dday #1--2002 EA dday #2--2005 bar sl*t dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years
