I think exposure backfired?

[AntoniaB]

Yes, I did read DR cover to cover twice and the other material once. I guess I need to reread till it sticks entirely and that will help. Thanks for your assistance Puppy and Allen A. At this point I am working very hard on the detach advice. It's difficult but I think it's best in the long run for me with him and for me if I never get him back. I don't know how to explain it but I do feel in my heart that while I believe I have the ability to cope without him, I also feel a sense of destiny that we are "meant" for one another, only that now we are not as the people we are AT PRESENT. Fixing myself and my issues makes me stronger whether I am with him or not. I hope he "gets it" and sees the same on his end, but I also know that I can't control what he thinks, so he may never see what I see.