Still trying to find my way

[newmama]

It just feels like so soon H will wake up from his fog.

Don't think it will be SOON! You will be disappointed! It is better to know that it will happen one day! I am just trying to help you from my mistake- I would think "he will come out when S is born." "Well he will come out when S is 3 months, after seeing how much he wants a family." "He will come out after the holidays." "He had a cancer scare! This will help him come out of the fog!" "He will come out after this has gone on for a year."

I STILL BELIEVE MY stbxh WILL come out of this mess! Now (haha) I think it could happen before we are divorced! BUT who knows. He will probably come out when I am least expecting it, when I am seeing someone else, and have gotten over him.

So, my point is, not to set your hopes high for a particular deadline of some sort. The higher the hopes, the harder the crash when they don't happen! But you can still confidently know that your H won't be in this haze forever.

Also, my SIL has been tremendous in supporting me, so I vote that you call yours!