CW you are right that I can drag this out. I feel like maybe I should have waited to sign up for the custody class because that HAS to be done in order for the divorce to be granted.


But let's look at whether me postponing the class matters.
So I take it and am done by August. The divorce still isn't final until October. Theoretically, it doesn't matter that I took the class because 3 months from not, stbxh will see big problems in reality land with OW. So is it logical that if he regrets his decision at that time that he would say "oh well. We already took the class so it means I have to go through with the divorce."??

But if I just reschedule or not take it by October 14, we couldn't be divorced. I would have to pay the $250 to take it later. But heck- who cares if it helps us to stay married? Will it add more conflict to the A if I stall on the D? And will this conflict help the A to end or bring them closer together???

I hope this isn't too convoluted! I am just trying to analyze both paths! Am I making sense?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004