Db not working, MLC spouse pushing D

[foreverhesaid]

This past week the lawyer sent an email, wanting to make an appointment to go over divorce paperwork.

I told my husband that I was not going to make an appointment until he answered all of my questions about running our business. I had a list at least 4 pages long of things I wanted him to go over.

He got mad, saying "are you telling me that you are going to use this as leverage before you will discuss the divorce papers?"

I told him that I needed to make sure I had everything covered before he would possibly just split and leave town. He then said, "I told you that I would always be available for your questions, are you saying you don't trust me to keep my word?"

I was completely flabbergasted. Here is a man who made me the most important promise one human can make to another, and apparently disregarded it without a thought. So you didn't keep our wedding vows, but I can trust you to answer questions about our business after we're divorced? I was steaming inside but managed to keep it together.

Instead, I know that one of his major MLC issues is his health. He has been dealing with a serious disease issue and one doctor told him he won't make it to age 45. I instead phrased my request as, "well, I don't know if you're going to be around to answer my questions, so I would like you to go over everything now." Maybe it wasn't nice to play on his fears, but he seemed to accept that and at least it didn't escalate into a fight.