Baby born, separated, WH moving overseas for OW

[newmama]

Piano, sorry, but your FIL sounds like he is giving you a load of BS! I think he just took off and has felt bad about it but then time went on and it was worse and worse and seemed to hard to come back. I think he was too weak and ashamed to deal with returning. He left because....he and MIL were fighting?? and he thought it was best for his son??? I bet you there was an OW!

Of course this is just my opinion based on watching a lot of Oprah. It doesn't meant that today, your FIL is remorseful and is a kind man who has changed. But you can't undo the past 40 years.

I bought the book "Getting the Love you Want for couples" because it helps you identify how your childhood caused you to be drawn to your spouse and how it influenced the relationship. (your spouse's childhood, too). I figured it would help me not repeat any mistakes in my next relationship. If it's any good, I will recommend it.