Yes those things are all true. I can cut back in certain places but I would be completely house poor. My mortgage is about $2300 per month and I make $3800 per month after taxes. So even without utilities I only have $1500 left for all utilities, groceries, etc. I would need help from him. I want to try to make an offer and see if he will accept it.
We can't sell the house now, there is no way. We owe his father $30K that he lent us for a downpayment that we planned to pay back once we sold the house. I dont even think we could sell the house for what we bought if for now.
We always said we would live in the house (our first) for 5-7 years. I would like him to continue to pay his portion until Nov. 2013 (we will have owned the house for 5 years) at that point I will put it on the market and it will need to sell for $xx amount in order to pay back FIL. Considering everything he has put me through I think that is fair. He married me as a cheater and cheated on me our entire marraige and continues to cheat on me.
I'm going to retain the lawyer and once I do that I'll decide if I want to just file or if I want to do a legal seperation and honestly, all that will probably depend on what I think I can get financially.
What about my pain and suffering? Do you know how much therapy I am going to need? My entire life was a lie and I had not idea. This isn't a case of "things not working out". How can he even say he tried 100% when he was cheating on me the whole time. How did I even have a fighting chance? Why should I lose everything I worked for becaues WH is an [censored]?
