Gardener, you don't have to be her friend, there's no law that says you have to want to chum around with the person who ripped your heart out. Some can do it, mostly for the kids but there's no shame in saying NO CAN DO! Don't sweat it, now go drop something heavy on your foot, you'll thank me later!
I know. As I told her that day, "friends don't do what you've done." This week, I was second guessing myself after reading Snodderly's excellent posts in the MLC archives thread about "Runaway MLCers": Above all, be their friend.
But not after they've already divorced you, Gardener!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
