Still chipping away at EA

[elvencat]

So OW's mother is basically against affair, but since OW 'rents' part of the house she feels she can't do anything about it. I asked her to show overt disapproval whenever possible instead of just sitting by and watching it like a horrible play. She said she has before and it didn't do any good. I said, please for the sake of repairing a family at least try.

DN (OW's mother) is actually an individual counselor... and tried to basically give me a session over the phone! lol.. anyway.. she gave me the line that it takes two to work on the marriage. I politely disagreed and told her I was seeking help from a licensed marital and family therapist who has a different view.

She also recommended I move out with DD and go dark to shock H into seeing what divorce would be like. She swore she wasn't saying that for OW, but because she thinks that's the only thing that has any hope of getting through to H at this point.

I don't want to believe that, but I've not dealt with this before... any opinions?