I might add... it's different: I've never done anything to justify him feeling that way...he has! OK, well, I'm not going to say I've never done anything that would make him unhappy, but I've never done anything that's a personal assault on him. I've never withheld affection from him or told him I wanted out, or acted cold. My biggest crime was being depressed. I've never acted mean, angry, or cold.
Someone looking at depression from the outside, though, may think you were acting cold. Depression and anxiety problems are something I know a great deal about (communication, not so much, which is why I'm here. )
Basically if you are depressed, you can show little to no affection for yourself, so you definitely aren't able to act affectionately toward others. NOT your fault at ALL... but your H, if he's not understanding about depression, could have taken it as negativity and or coldness toward him, and therefore he feels he has a 'right' to act like that now. Again, NOT YOUR FAULT, but that may be one of the factors here.
Me 32, H 34, DD 3 M 6, T 8 Bomb 03/10 OW Bomb 6/5/10 Separate & NC 6/28/10 My 2nd EA Thread
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