YOu need a plan on how to attack the addiction that makes SENSE and you need to stick to it, not follow your instincts or quick suggestions.. you need to educate yourself on how to manage infideilty and you need to act on that... consistently...

Stop following your impulses...

When you aren't sure what to say.. say nothing and walk away

When you aren't sure what to do, come here and get some advice from someone who's BEEN THERE