Still chipping away at EA

[elvencat]

I don't know if EC feels this way, but if I'm home alone and reading a book (for example), I'm perfectly fine. If H is home and I'm reading a book while he's making sure to basically ignore my existence, I'm reading my book but fuming at the same time (or feeling hurt... or whatever at the moment.)

Yes, I do feel this way from time to time. Now my problem is, though, that H wants to play nice and engage in conversation and, other than being physical with me (which I made clear was absolutely off limits), is basically acting like my old H - with the huge exception of having a 'girlfriend' on the side.

I have to remember that until OW is gone, I have to be consistent in my reactions to him and just because he's acting this way, it doesn't mean he feels anything. He's probably just wanting his home life to be less stressful and thinks acting like everything is ok will achieve that.

And as far as the kids.. my 3 yr doesn't even have to hear us fighting to know we are. She'll rush into the middle and basically act like the "adult" and try to get H and me to talk to her together. Totally unfair to her and I hate that things get that far.

And H asked how she was last night (I woke up when he came home, but made sure DD was already asleep long before he showed up). I told him 'needy'. H said "she's been that way a lot lately." My response: "Children feel insecure when one of their parents disappears, and she knows something is going on, so of COURSE she's going to be needy." I know I probably should've thrown in the part about his actions being the start of it, but I was just a little too out of it to think of that.

SunnyD, I do feel for your sitch and I'm really glad you are going back to school. Have fun and don't let homework get you down too much!