My response here may not be good DBing, but it is MHO based on what I have read in your threads since Jan and on my own experience (which is very different from yours). So take it as a "devil's advocate" type thing.
You are prepared to move on and end this M? Then why not say what you want to say? I would have questioned him on the uncertainty comment. (Yes, I am one of those who thinks of great things to say AFTER the fact!) You have DB'd so well, does he know how you feel? Do you feel you have said everything there is to say? I have thought of doing a "post game recap" with my H however we end up.
Obligation. This topic I did challenge with my H. A few weeks ago he said he felt obligated to OW. OW's help encourage this and feed it, I am sure. (They do not DB!)In all of their foggy, distorted thinking patterns (Google that if you haven't already)WS's do not/cannot see the other side of the coin. (DUH, wife family, vows) newmama, you have DB'd so well, Your H may need reminding you think you should raise your S as a family, not 2 families. OW's string in your H's nose is obvious.
Your dream: Have you spoken up to his family? Told them of his uncertainty? (My H's family is a "follow your bliss no matter what" type so that would do me no good) It is statistically likely that their A will disintegrate within a year once it is in "the real world". Unlike my H, your H is showing some integrity by Ding you before living openly w/OW. (It is twisted, I know, see "distorted thinking patterns") he is also under pressure to do so by OW.
Opposing views are welcome. These are just thoughts, not my firm stance.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
