Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

Well I will see her parents today for a long time at the family gathering.

I don't want to push the issue at all, but I will see where I can lead the conversation.

I just need to focus on doing my 180s. I need ALL the strength I can get. She is definitely in defensive mode today, and she is so short and snippy.

She told me yesterday she wants NO INTERACTION at all with me.

She has not given one single solitary inch. I helped out all morning with making stuff and preparing, and didn't get a single word otherwise. I just was my happy self.

But I am afraid she is sooooo stubborn that no matter how long I am happy and doing 180s, that her resolve will only get stronger and stronger. The more and longer I have been DB, the higher and higher her tension rises. I went out on a few errands without her asking for what she needed, and when I got home she looked like she was so angry she was almost in tears. Either that or she doesn't want me going today and she is furious with me for coming. I am actually worried that when I am happy and helping at the gathering (my 180), my wife just may explode in front of everyone.

This is a woman who won't forgive her sister for doing something to her in high school 16 years ago. I mean she still has palpable anger and huge resentment over that, almost to the point of tears when she brings it up.

When I let the rope go, she then usually takes it and whips me with it. When I am doing my DB and 180s, it usually has the opposite effect. I think there is so much anger in there that only God himself could DB it. I don't know. We will see after today.

Please, I need all of your prayers and hope. I need the strength to get through this day, and just ignore her sheer coldness and anger.