I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

OK a few people now have said to me that they still think there's a chance stbxh might not complete the divorce because he has doubts.

I don't know what to think! I mean I don't know what I am supposed to do. Yeah I know- "what do I want?" well I do want a second chance at my marriage with a remorseful and willing H.

So if I don't want this D I guess it was wrong of me to quickly get the acceptance paper notarized and then sign up for the classes so quickly? He gave me the D papers on 6/14. On 6/16 I handed him the notarized paper. On 6/17 I handed him the custody class registration. Now I am set to start July 6.


But REALISTICALLY--stbxh and OW have packed her crap up, moved it 25 miles to my town to live in the 3 bedroom house that he is leasing with her for a year. I know I have said this numerous times, but it IS SIGNIFICANT.

I have a feeling that stbxh bought new furniture for the place since he is taking practically nothing from our house and she has some crappy furniture (well when I went to her house 2 years ago).

So why is he so stupid to serve me with D papers when he has doubts, and then to give OW a sign of commitment like moving into a house together...that is 25 miles from her old stomping grounds.

It's not like he will tell me next month "oh crap, newmama, what am I doing? I don't want the divorce!" when she has JUST uprooted her things and moved into a house with him?? The D would be over by November. MAYBE something could change by then. But it will be harmful to me to avoid accepting that the D will happen. IMO.

Am I making sense at all? Am I worrying too much about practical issues like the relocation? I have just seen others mention how their cheating spouses feel a sense of responsibility to the OW (I know it's wrong) and they stay in the affair way too long because of it.

OK and the other night I had a dream that on the day (today) that stbxh was moving into his new place, he came over to our house. He parked his trailer (for hauling) in front of the house and made room for a moving truck. Then his mom, grandma, sister and a bunch of strangers (well not to them) showed up unannounced at like 9 a.m.! I was so annoyed and shocked! They were acting like this wasn't happening and we were still a regular family. I told stbxh that he needs to let his mom know this was wrong to do, disrespectful to me. He wouldn't tell her, so I did. She said she understood, but didnt' leave! And the topper to all of this--stbxh said "newmama, it's only for a YEAR! I'll be back!" and somewhere in there he mentioned a different woman's name, likehe was breaking up with OW.