Well, here's the thing about the last name in my sitch. It makes my WH feel really bad, I think. We haven't talked about it. But his grandpa (whom he loves) sent me a plaque with her first name and his last name instead of my maiden. (I hope that makes sense.) WH became sad after that because he knew he had disappointed his grandpa. But I am happy with that because I want him to be aware about what he has done/is doing.
If we get back together and he really wants her to have his last name in there somewhere, I'm fine with going in and paying to change the name. We're going to change SOMEBODY's name at least: either mine (if we don't divorce), hers (if he wants) or his (if he wants to join us)!
Oh, just got a text from MIL saying that WH wants to be with us all today. I wrote back that he is welcome. He feels bad about his drunkenness! It might be a good mood for our convo. We'll see.
I looked at Chet Baker's wikipedia page yesterday-- no mention of his family at all! Very interesting.
