prairiegirl, no need to apologize for anything! Thank you very much for your long and thoughtful post. It's always interesting to understand the differences and similarities of other situations to your own. Otherwise, you'd be blinded by thinking only of your own situation over and over again.
As for the birth control pill reducing desire, that's a funny Catch-22, isn't it? If you take the pill, you might end up having no sex. If you go off the pill, your desire might pick up and you'll have sex!
It's even "funnier" in my case, if you like "dark humor" -- hey, you have to be able to laugh about these things -- my wife hasn't used birth control pills in decades because we have a totally SSM. So, hey, that is at least one positive result of an SSM -- all the money you save on birth control pills, not to mention the health complications some women have from them.
Yeah, so birth control really hasn't been an issue in my marriage for the last 20 years, thanks to a long-term SSM.
(Dead uncomfortable silence) Hey, at least I thought it was funny!
