Don't agree with giving EVERYTHING to her , and that is what you will be giving to her...
YOUR happiness
YOUR memories that are to come
YOUR life....
I know this sh!t sucks....
I just think that YOU are worth fighting for...
I see Virginia posted the numbers for you
Please use them
QFT Par.....
M: 39 W: 39 Kids (3): S10; S8; D4 Married 14 years Togethor: 18 years Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009 Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10 Current Status: In counseling
Par, 41 years old??? Your life is over??? My mom and 2 of her sisters met their current loves at 40, 45, and 47 years of age. I know they are women, but their lovers (two are married, one isn't) are within a few years of their age. And now they are 57-60 years old. ANd going strong.
please keep updating so we know you are ok.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I am still here. Did something stupid but it didnt work. I am just trying to get through one day at time. I am just like everyone on these posts-cant believe what happened. I can only remember the good memories and not the bad.
par, please keep coming back here as much as you need to ... a lifeline of support is so vital for you and anyone in your situation right now. Jack_Three_Beans actually gave you very good advice earlier: do something to take yourself OUT OF yourself. His advice was to confront a fear, which I believe is a good idea. But ANYTHING you do that is constructive or enlightening or gets you out among people and is also out of your comfort zone and different from what you usually do is a good idea.
Also, I know it's not necessarily comforting to know that others are hurting when you hurt so bad, but think of it this way: others HAVE hurt as bad, or worse (as hard as that might be to believe), than you and have come out of it better, stronger, sometimes even happier people than before. It's true and you have to believe that.
Please take care of yourself and take the advice you get here to heart. These people have walked through fire themselves ... they know.
I am glad to know you are still with us! I worried about you this weekend, as I know many others on this board did. I don't like that you "did something stupid," but I'm glad that 1.) You realize it was stupid (therefore a bad decision) and 2.) it did NOT work. Keep taking things one day at a time, or one hour at a time when you have to. You are right; you ARE just like all of us...hurt and confused and unsure of what to do to get your life back in control. That's one of the great things about this board; we can come here for support and friendship and virtual hugs from those who know how we feel from personal experience. Take care of YOU right now!!!
