He firmly believes that he is not having an affair. We spent the month of April and part of May fighting about this - I said I wouldn't tolerate the friendship/relationship etc. and he constantly blew up saying I didn't trust him, was trying to control who he could and could not be friends with. My insistence that he was having an EA is what caused him to shut down and insist on divorce.
And I thought the marriage counselor my lawyer suggested actually sounded exactly like the marriage counselors Michele recommends in DR. Guess I must have read that section wrong.
My question remains the same. Is the DBing that I am doing from the book working? The DB coach I am working with suggests more time for his probable MLC. She hasn't suggested I confront him about the OW at all, or to go cold at this time.
I don't remember Michele talking about giving ultimatums to the WAS, even in the chapter on affairs.
