Originally Posted By: ken5140 W wants to go to church because some old friends have come to visit and are going to be speaking, but OMW just called me to tell me that OM will be in church and not to "freak out". I can't keep W from going, so what should I do?
Every time both W and OM are there, they try to sneak off to the hallway together to talk.
How do I deal with the OM in church? Should I confront him? If so, how? OMW has called me twice asking me not to do what I did last week (call him a creep).
No no. The OMW doesn't get it. It is not your job to try and keep him & your W apart at church or any other place. If you have a RO, then it's his responsibility to keep his distance. OMW doesn't want any scenes caused but she'll put up with her H & your W secretely meeting in the hallway of the church? OM & your W certainly has no respect for where they are, do they? It is just another place for them to sneak around and get to see each other.
OM's W has proven that she is as spineless as jelly. You cannot afford to start trying to do her job for her.....you have your own to do. If she contacts you again, tell her that it is her H's decision and if he breaks the RO, then the police will be notified. It might cause a distrubance, but to me that is not as bad as the conduct that has been carried on there.
Don't confront OM at church, just notify the police immediately and have them deal with him. Stick to your plan, Ken. OM & your W will have to be shown that you mean business! They think you will back down, and that is exactly what OM'W is trying to get you to do. I think OM is behind her pleading with you!
Last edited by sandi2; 06/26/1003:22 PM.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
