I wouldn't try to continue to make excuses for your W's absence. Just shrug and say, "I guess you'll have to ask her".

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No R talks or any hints of her
missing me. I'll continue family time and see if she appreciates that.


This is what the LBH doesn't get. Even if she was sincere about saving the M.....she probably will not show those "signs" you want to see from her. She would not jump back into being that person she used to be.

Has she expressed remorse in any way? Until she gets through the final stage of remorse, she isn't going to be able to overcome those feelings of resentment, etc. As a result, the MR will not heal.

Do not start a conversation about the R.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!