Heh, FLTC, I was still checking your old thread....since it never locked I didn't realize you had started a new one until I thought to check today. Happy to hear you are finally divorced! I don't know if any of your "old friends" are sill checking your old thread....they may not be MIA after all. Hope you will keep in touch now and then to let us know how post divorce life is treating you! My ex and I have always had a more cordial relationship than you and your ex, but my blood pressure still rises when I see his name on my caller ID. Most of our communication is about our daughter, but occasionally he will call "to just say hi". He is still not a happy person....which actually makes me happy and sad. Happy that it's not just ME that was making him unhappy (although not sure he would admit that, but it makes me feel better about myself), but also sad that he turned our family upside down for no apparent reason. (((FLTC))). Best wishes for a happy life!!!!