EC: I know how difficult it is trying to live with someone throughout this process! It's easier when they aren't around, but at the same time, you want them home because that's the best way to bring about change.
Allen/PDT: I read your comments with interest. I get so confused (as I'm sure EC does too) in terms of "how to act". I don't want to cause tension in the home that the kids will pick up on. On the other hand, you can't act like everything's hunky dory either. DB seems to advocate being nice and trying to "be the better option". Yet, being nice does smack of approval of the situation to me. As I've stated in other threads, that's why I love Dobson's Love Must Be Tough. It helps find the balance. Now personally, if I were to be able to prove an affair, I think I'd have to tell me H to get out! As you know, in my sitch I can't prove anything. SO.... it makes knowing how to act (in terms of the every day/small talk scenerio) that much harder.
