Forgive me if this has been brought up many times here--I have been aware that my H uses porn, and we have always had what I thought was a sex-starved marriage (10 times a year or less).
I am not *against* porn, per se, if the R is otherwise healthy.
I have had a C that said it is cheating, and then I have had a few friens that say it's not. I like the "hard hitting" approach that goes on over here (that is why I'm asking here, and not in the SS forum--they have a different approach that I have tried now for about 5 years.lol. It ain't working!)
My H has become increasingly disrespectful, and as of now, it's been 5 months since he's even touched me. A 180 for me is to stop being a doormat and create some sort of boundary.
