He's Loving the Freedom of the 180 - Now What?

[Jointheclub]

I understand this approach and feel it can be really hard to do, especially when your WH has left and is actively pursuing his affair with soon-to-be divorced OW. He's also here and there bringing her kids together with my kids (families were "good" friends - socialized together, vacationed together (sick) - what a convenient/easy way to maintain an affair). The kids don't know about them, but I do wonder if they have suspicions (OW kids are 17, 14 - My kids 12 and 5).

I'm guilty of not keeping family out of it, even though I had the best of intentions in the beginning. I think it's hard because sometimes you really need someone "real" time to help you when you're REALLY stressed and it's easy to get in touch with a family member/friend whereas a counselor is only available on a scheduled basis.

On the other hand this almost seems to contradict "exposing" an affair to everyone you know. What do you think?