That talks about being careful who you talk to when you're thinking about divorce. If you use your family, friends, and co-workers as a sounding board for your marital problems, they'll take your side, demonize your spouse, and cheer you all the way to divorce court.
But if your spouse changes what you don't like, starts respecting you at home, and you start thinking about staying...well, that will never do! Your sounding board will tell you you're being tricked and re-double their efforts to get you to leave your spouse.
MWD says she's seen it HUNDREDS of times and it makes recon SO MUCH MORE DIFFICULT. Hence her advice to be careful what you say when complaining to your cronies.
I told Larry I didn't understand why WH treated me well at home yet ignored me or made fun of me when he was around his co-workers and grad students. NOW I get it!
As smart and brilliant as he is, WH is EASILY influenced. Always has been. But for the grace of God he could have been swallowed up by a gang or cult in an effort to belong. Probably part of his abandonment issues from his childhood.
So...
Anyone dealt with this recon wrinkle before? Any advice?
