I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

haha! burning the letters and cards! And what about the ring? Flush it down the toilet? I am not seriously asking- just adding to the cliche movie montage. Yes, it gave me a funny visual too and I might even think of it when I am dealing with the crap tomorrow.

So I am prioritizing my goals that I borrowed (and tweaked) from Geronimo because I had some of the same needs. Plan for tomorrow is to get my affirmations written down from the inspiration of my goals:

1) Be steady. Develop resilience. Stay calm. Cope with the bad moments.

2)Forgiveness. Letting go of the pain and anger, and keeping it from informing my behavior. (SOOOOO DIFFICULT!)

3)- Building a relationship with XH as co-parents – what the hell does a coparenting relationship look like, where one parent lives with a trampy --- dumpster and the other is a bitter old maid? (joking! kinda! I am not an old maid! the rest was true!.)

seriously- figure out boundaries and then discuss with stbxh. it's like laying down the rules.

something annoying- why does stbxh have to be soooo nice? Why not do some displacement of blame or be pissy with me once in awhile?

4) Building a satisfying life for myself with my new identity as single mom – and this is going to include being able to be alone without dwelling on the sadness, the "unfairness" or the jealousy. To be complete without a husband or "lover." For this to no longer be what my life is about.