I also mentioned something my lawyer said to me, that if there was any doubt in either of our minds that she had the name of a marriage counselor that is very different from the usual counselor. He asked "different in what way?" I said that instead of talking about all the problems from the past, that you focus on the good that is still there and the future.
Sounds very pollyanna to me. Does this counselor have any experience in dealing with infidelity? I can assure you, unless it is DEALT with, both thru counseling (for both the cheating and the betrayed spouse), and thru a good no-contact/transparency plan, simply "not dwelling on the past" will lead to a recidivism rate in excess of 90%.
I'm sorry, that's just naive. SOUNDS great, but terribly naive.
