Thanks everyone for your comments and support. We had a quick conversation tonight about the divorce, as I met with a lawyer and he wanted to know how it went. I was pleasant and upbeat, saying she showed me some numbers which reassured me that I would be fine, we talked about health insurance, me buying a house etc. Basically I was telling him that I'll be fine either way and I stayed strong and smiling.
I also mentioned something my lawyer said to me, that if there was any doubt in either of our minds that she had the name of a marriage counselor that is very different from the usual counselor. He asked "different in what way?" I said that instead of talking about all the problems from the past, that you focus on the good that is still there and the future. That she's really action oriented and will give it to you straight (all things my lawyer said). Then he said that his lawyer had said something similar to him, that he had suggested some DVDs that are really good at helping people reconcile without dwelling on the past and old problems. My husband said it was something to think about and we've been hanging out watching baseball and watching funny videos on YouTube since (he finds the videos and calls me over to watch them).
