I get that. But prior to sex stopping, how often was it and was it "making love" or was it machine-like?
The year before it stopped, maybe 2-4 times total (intercourse) in a year. In the 4 years before that, only 2 times. These years were mostly HJ, not intercourse. In fact, most of the marriage has been just HJ's.
As for the intercourse years ago, at its best, it seemed pretty good to me. She was always pretty passive, though mildly enjoying it in the beginning. But then I don't have a very good perspective because I've never experienced "mutual" sex where both people have orgasms (never mind the absurd notion of having them at the same time).
