btw, the "hard hug" works on crazy spouses (and ex-spouses too, I suppose) as well! Puppy
And the hard hug -if over 20 seconds - is scientifically proven to be one of the ways to release oxytocin (the bonding hormone) into the bloodstream. True.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac